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What to Expect
What Actually Happens in a Session
If you have never done this before, the unknown is often the biggest barrier. Here is a plain description of how the work runs, from the first consultation onward.
Before You Book
Nobody Puts You on a Couch
Sessions are conversations with structure and a point. You will not be asked to free-associate about your childhood while someone takes notes in silence.
The work is active. You will be asked direct questions, given honest feedback, and offered specific things to try before the next session. If you are in a couple, both partners speak and neither sits through a monologue. The pace is brisk without being rushed, and nothing happens without an explanation of why.
Common worries, addressed:
- “I won’t know what to say” — you will be asked questions, not left to fill silence
- “I’ll be blamed” — the focus is the pattern, not a verdict
- “My partner will be ganged up on” — neither of you gets a coalition
- “I’m not the emotional type” — plain speech is completely fine
- “It will go on for years” — the work is time-limited and goal-focused
The Sequence
How the First Few Sessions Usually Go
The early sessions are about orientation first and the beginnings of change second.
Session one: the landscape
What brought you here, what you have already tried, and what you want to be different. You will leave with at least one concrete thing to notice or try.
Sessions two and three: the pattern
Mapping the cycle you are caught in, and identifying each person’s part in maintaining it.
From there: practice and repair
Building and rehearsing skills, then applying them to real disagreements as they come up.
The Practical Details
What a Session Looks Like
The mechanics are simple, and worth knowing before you start.
Format and Length
Sessions are held online and typically run sixty minutes.
- Secure video sessions
- Sixty minutes as standard
- Scheduling across Canadian time zones
Who Is in the Room
Depending on the work, sessions may be joint, individual, or a mix of both.
- Couples: usually both partners together
- Men’s work: one to one
- Teens: parent involvement agreed in advance
Between Sessions
Most of the change happens outside the session, and that is by design.
- Specific practices to try
- Something to notice and report back on
- Occasional reading or written exercises
Ground Rules
What Makes Sessions Work Well
A few simple conditions make a large difference to how much you get out of the work.
Arrive on time and undistracted
A closed door and silenced notifications matter more than most people expect.
Speak plainly
Precision helps more than eloquence. Blunt is entirely fine.
Say when something lands badly
If feedback misses the mark, saying so improves the work rather than derailing it.
Do the between-session piece
The practice outside sessions is where change gets consolidated.
Timeline
When You Might Notice Change
Timelines vary between people, but there are some rough patterns worth knowing.
After one session
Usually some relief, and a clearer description of the actual problem.
After three or four
You can see your cycle and start catching it occasionally.
After a couple of months
Arguments are shorter, repair is faster, and things genuinely feel different.
Longer term
The new pattern becomes the default rather than a conscious effort.
The Essentials
The Practical Facts at a Glance
Format
Secure online video sessions
Length
Sixty minutes as standard
First step
Location
Vancouver and online across Canada
Getting Started
Are You Ready to Begin?
There is no perfect moment, but a few signs suggest now is a reasonable time to start.
You Are Probably Ready If You...
- Can name at least one thing you want to be different
- Are willing to try something before you are certain it will work
- Can commit to a regular session time
- Would rather have honest feedback than reassurance
- Accept that some of the work is yours alone
It May Be Worth Waiting If You...
- Are only attending to satisfy someone else
- Want your partner fixed while you stay the same
- Are in an acute crisis that needs clinical care first
- Cannot commit to any consistency over the next month
- Are looking for a formal diagnosis or treatment
Not sure? That's completely normal. A free consultation is the best way to explore whether this approach fits your situation. No pressure, no commitment.
Ready to Take the First Step?
The free consultation is a conversation, not a commitment. Ask whatever you need to and decide afterwards.
Proven method. Results oriented. Safe and empathetic.